The very first step on our spirit farting path. The “Silent But Deadly” or “SBD”.
We’ve all been there. It’s late. We’re among friends, and there it is.
The hot stench of this morning’s frittata begins to rise.
No one will know. Just act natural.
That’s how meditation has to be. Seriously. There is no broadcasted ego boost needed here. We aren’t marching for anything today. We aren’t even making a sound. Yet we are changing the dynamics of everyone we encounter. Most importantly, we are changing the dynamic we have with ourselves. And since this all occurs when we learn to silence the chatter within our own mind, it is indeed silent, but why deadly? A glimpse of this silence brings clarity. With clarity comes death. Death of indoctrinated beliefs and false perceptions. Death of fears. Death of limits. Death of all barriers formerly perceived as being placed upon you. Silent but deadly.
And the beat goes on…..
Delving into our depths is a journey we’re going to have to pack a lunch for, but it is the first step for a reason. If you do not learn where you come from, you will be too busy fighting battles that are not yours to fight to ever investigate fully who you are. Finding out which type of seed you are is critical to your growth. Wouldn’t you feel like a silly goose if you spend your entire life trying to grow into an apple tree? If you would have spent some time with yourself along the way, you would have discovered that you are and always have been a fig tree. A glorious, wondrous, delicious fig tree! But you are a failure as far as apple enthusiasts are concerned.
We uncover our magic when we silence our mind. We silence our mind through meditation.
If you say, “I can’t meditate,” one more time, I’m allowed to punch you in the throat.
You’ve been warned, let’s move on.
Meditation takes practice. Our only prerequisite to being able to meditate is a willingness to try again. That’s it! You don’t need yoga pants to meditate. You don’t have to buy special beads to meditate nor do you need to go on a month-long retreat to learn. If you can count to four and you can breathe, then you can meditate. Period. You simply need to trust the process and repeat.
This is my all-time favorite breathing meditation. It’s simple. It’s easy to remember, and the counts go nicely with music if you find something with the right tempo!
- Breathe in through your nose. Pulling down your diaphragm, keeping your shoulders relaxed, as you count to four. Visualize the numbers appearing before you 1, 2, 3, 4. Here’s a diagram for diaphragmatic breathing.
- Hold your breathe. Visualize the numbers before you 1, 2, 3, 4.
- Purse your lips like you’re whistling and fully exhale through your mouth. Pulling your diaphragm in and up. Visualize the numbers 1, 2, 3, 4.
- Hold your exhale for a final count of four.
Try it for three or four minutes, once or twice a day.
Then, give yourself small, attainable goals like, “I will do this meditation once a day for a week.” Keep a calendar that you have to check off. Make yourself accountable!
If breathing meditations are not your thing, then FIND OUT WHAT IS!
Perhaps you would like guided meditations. Here are some of my favs:
This is Bashar. He’s quick and powerful. Good stuff!
I don’t think I’ve ever done this meditation and not felt profoundly at peace.
Where it all started for me. This man is brilliant! If you’re a beginner though, I find this one will have your mind wondering.
Again, make small goals. Meditation is not a skill you perfect in a finite duration of time. Meditation is the unfolding of the infinite. It’s going to take some work. Yet with each exhale, with each moment of stillness, you are changing how your brain responds to stimuli. You are training your nasty little inner voice to pipe down. You are dropping some serious baggage. Don’t geek out if you cry. You probably need it.
If you get frustrated, that’s ok. Try again, and again, and again. Eventually you will feel yourself become less and less concerned about whether this works or whether you’re doing it wrong and you will begin to feel a connectedness that is impossible to convey with words. You will be connecting to your higher self. Enjoy her. She is wise beyond measure.
You are on your way you silent but deadly soul.